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[SPYDERHATE]

how come with lesbians, its always i would want my gf to carry the child?

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[cashley]

Day-Z - I don't think you are selfish either! Actually you are being more unselfish than if you had kids and didn't want them! Like many people do!

I felt the same way until I was 28! But I've lived a lot, traveled overseas, part owner of a software company, had lots of "freedom" etc. etc.!!

Then a niece came into my life, and lived with me for 10 days when she was three! My brother and his wife had to go out of town, so I watched her! It was the best 10 days of my life! I never expected to feel that way! My happiness passed through her, I grew watching her learn and grow!

Anyway, my point is now I?m trying to have a baby! It's been over three years; I'm 31 now! And I have to begin to make those above decisions! Talk about hard! I think we will adopt, but I'm not ready to give up! I also don't want our child to be mine and not my husbands so we won't go with a "donor"!!


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[Branflakes]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by SPYDERHATE:
how come with lesbians, its always i would want my gf to carry the child?

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It's not, Spyder. My gf wants to have the child. She wants to be pregnant. I don't for several reasons, including health concerns.



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[SPYDERHATE]

i never meant it as an insult branflakes.
but i just thought it a remarkable coincidence that the 6 lesbian couples that i know, it is always "my gf".

if your gf wants to be pregnant, then thats cool.

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[The Lady Belle]

Day-Z..My husband and I talked for ages before we came to the decision not to have kids..We finally decided after my last course of In-Vitro Fertilisation.

I know that he still would like to have kids but he was seeing just how painful mentally and physically it was on me trying to fall pregnant..

I tell you In-Vitro Fertilisation is no fun and games..In fact it nearly killed me in the end because of Hyper Stimulated Ovaries from the hormone injections I was given..

My ovaries swelled from their normal walnut size to the size of a large orange..with over 55, half-inch sized egg folicals..just on my left ovary..the nurse didnt count how many there was on my right..They were only expecting to find maybe 5 ripe egg folicals..

Anyway..I'd rather be alive with no kids than die trying to have them..


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[Miral]

Michael and I had "the scare". Even though I am on the pill I was late. I kept getting sick and felt weird for a week. I was scared. But as I thought about it I kinda wanted the child. I couldn't imagine killing it, I couldn't imagine giving it up. With that thought in mind I would say I eventually would like to have one...but truthfully I'm not going to go out of my way and plan having a kid. if we don't have one, Oh well.
It wouldn't bother me if I adopted. But I really don't have a reason to...I think we are both pretty fertile.
If I were infertile I would not someone elses sperm or use a surrogate. I wouldn't even go the in-vitro route.

And about what Michael sees when I look at babies...he says it's exactly the same as when I look at puppies. He says I want a puppy...and he said he'd rather have a puppy, heh.

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[Branflakes]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by SPYDERHATE:
i never meant it as an insult branflakes.
but i just thought it a remarkable coincidence that the 6 lesbian couples that i know, it is always "my gf".

if your gf wants to be pregnant, then thats cool.

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I didn't think you were trying to insult me, Sypder. No harm.

I also know lots of women (gay and straight) that don't want to be pregnant. The nice thing if you're gay, is that your gf might want to.



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[snail]

Why don't more people adopt, I find it kind of weird it still has a stigma to it.

Most likely the way things are going my g/f and I will adopt if we ever choose to have kids. She doesn't want to carry a baby. As for Belle I agree, we'd have less problems if not everyone thought they had to have a baby.

There's some really fucked up parents out there...

[Suture-Chan]

1. Yes, someday. I'm planing on 7 or 8 years from now trying to have one.

2&3. I'm not sure I'd adopt, I might, Joe, I can't speak for him.

5(and expanded 3) Thing is, I just might be infertile. I've always had really messed up menstrual cycle, and in the future, I may have difficulty concieving. Which would be kinda funny because everyone else in my family is fertile as hell! So I don't know about a surrogate. Maybe just adopt out right.

I have enough babies and kids in my family that I'm not going to be worried about lack of children around.

But it would be nice to have a child or 2 around to warp for the future

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[The Reverend Dark Angel]

snail, my personal reason for not wanting to adopt is because if I'm going to raise a child, I want it to be my child. A part of me, a part of her. That will also make it easier when it comes to character traits.

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